I’ll Do It Later: Surviving School (and Renewing the Love) with Your ADHD Son

Hi Parents, This book follows four teenagers who were struggling in school—even though they were trying (sometimes), you were trying, their teachers were trying. Maybe you can relate. You're working hard to help your teen get basic things done, and your relationship is getting strained. The connection you used to have is turning into arguments and exhaustion. Our take: Even good organization strategies (in theory) "work" less than half the time with ADHD teens. That's just how it goes. We lean into that reality. Here's what makes this book different: We show you four detailed cases—Alan, Manan, Terry, and Silas—and at every turning point, we stop and ask: What do you think happened next? Will the strategy work or flop? Will the teen follow through or bail? We want you guessing because we've found that nobody can predict what will work most of the time. You'll see us try reasonable interventions. Some work. Many fail. That's the game. The families who succeed are the ones who can try five things, watch four fail, celebrate the one that works, and keep going. The four teens: Alan - The smooth-talking 16-year-old with two D's and an F who insists he can charm his way out of it. Will moving him from bedroom to kitchen table help? Guess before you turn the page. Manan - The anxious perfectionist who reads particle physics for fun but freezes at a blank page. His trial attorney mom sees herself in his struggles. When he tries Pomodoro technique, what happens? Terry - The 17-year-old who's retreated into his bedroom, deflecting with therapy-speak. Something small was hiding in plain sight. Can you spot it before we reveal it? Silas - The college freshman who thrived under his engineer dad's structure but froze completely at university. His university offers plenty of support. Will any of it actually help? Some things we've learned: Screens make focus worse. Research backs this up (Haidt). And when teens are stressed, they shut down and stop listening to parents (Yeager). School portals are a nightmare. They hide the real picture. Students need to dig deeper—we call it "Sherlocking"—to find what's actually due. College often makes ADHD harder. The best thing you can do now is help your teen learn to ask for help and actually use it. Coaching means strategic support. One productive hour with a coach can unlock five, ten, even fifteen hours of independent work. We show you where standard advice falls apart, why ongoing support matters, and how families build systems that actually stick—even when they break down and need rebuilding. This book is for parents who need the truth more than another "proven system." View Less